Although I love Christmas, I’m trying to decrease my preparation stress and create a more peaceful, satisfying experience by shortening my To Do list. I decided to start by eliminating holiday cards. I’m tired of searching for “perfect cards,” writing personal notes, and mailing 70 only to receive 20 in return. It’s not fun anymore, so they’re off the list … although … am I sure I want to cut off contact with people we haven’t seen for decades? Do I want to be a holiday card curmudgeon? Maybe better to rethink…
I was still wrestling with the card quandary when I discovered that I’m now the only one in my family who still loves Mom’s dark and spicy, wine-soaked fruitcake (which bears no resemblance to those insipid, tan things you find in the grocery store). No one in the family has one stashed in the freezer and no one plans to bake one, which means I can no longer expect to get my annual McGinty fruitcake in the mail! John loves it too, and it has been our traditional Christmas Eve snack for years. So it was up to me. I couldn’t decide if I wanted to tackle an easy, but unfamiliar 17-ingredient recipe for the first time and send 70+ cards and complete all of my non-negotiable holiday tasks like cookie-baking, present-wrapping, and decorating.
Then I went to breakfast with my friend, Susan, where I described my dilemma. Instead of helping me agonize over pros and cons, she said, “Make the fruitcake. Do the tradition and forget the cards.” It’s not like I needed permission, but it worked.
And so – to all recipients of this newsletter who are also on my holiday card list, the fruitcake won. Nonetheless, I do wish you a peaceful, happy holiday season and a wonderful 2020!